Can you really find peace. How to find perfect peace amid the storm of life

 

Like I said in my previous post. If you really want to be happy, you have to be at peace. Being at peace with one's self is so difficult  that the subject of peace becomes something many people considered the impossible.

Not long have I really understand the subject of peace. I was always filled with desire to be at peace everyday. I'll try everything I could, treat myself to a nice meal, visit several place especially some of the best, restaurant, cinema, pools and recreational centre just to find that moment of blissfulness. Do not misunderstand me, it's very good to do that, but if you do it because you think you'll forget you problem forever, then you are misunderstanding it, those were just short term solutions to forgeting ones problem and enjoying the moments. It doesn't mean you won't remember them after or feel the same again. 

Most of the things that are happening to human beings can either be permanent or for a short time, just like when were injured, some injuries leave a permanent scars while some will be erased completely. 

Coping with challenges and difficulty may not always be easy and there would always  be troubles and adversity in life. 

How can we be at peace, how can we find peace in most of all our troubles? This questions brought about the reason for this write up. How can we find the perfect peace amid the storm of life? I have put below a few points on how we can be at peace even when everything seems upside down.

Stop blaming yourself excessively

Most of the time we blame our self for all our failures in life instead of accepting it and then move on. Over blaming yourself for a problem can cause much more frustration than what the problem you have experienced has caused already.Learn to accept the things you cannot change.  

Just because you cannot do it or it's not yours, doesn't mean it's the end for you. There will always be more to do and much more to accomplish. Do not filled your soul with regrets and blame. It kills one's spirit and deteriorate the ability to move one.

Do not chase perfection

People who strive for perfection always train their mind not to allow or settle for anything else other than what is perfect.

Inner peace on the other hand which simply means being comfortable in your strengths and in your weaknesses. People who strive for perfection may not always accept their own weaknesses. Aside God, is there anything that's perfect or can be perfect at all time? No! So to be at peace, stop trying to perfect at all times.

Do away with grudges

This is one of the things that almost every human knows how to do. It is a form of punishment when someone offends us. We tend to believe that if we do not talk to the person we had issue with, they will realize their mistakes and then come back to apologise.

In reality, this is vane, because most of the time the person we are keeping grudges against do not even think about it. And it becomes useless when they don't even see it or notice it.

Built-up resentment stop you from achieving your inner peace because you're stuck in a place that  is called an isolated event. Without ability to move on, you're shielding yourself from new opportunities and experiences.

Continue to build healthy relationship

We live in a world where we are surrounded with several noise that makes inner peace to be uneasy to find. In other to experience a peaceful atmosphere, you need to develop and build on healthy relationship.

Although, inner peace is inside out. Your relationship with people you surround yourself with greatly matters to your healthy living.  

Healthy relationship reduce the noise we experienced day to day. If you want to be at peace, keep your relationship with people mutual and establish healthy boundaries in your professional and personal life.

Be cautious of Peeople-pleasing

People-pleasing can crumble your sense of integrity. People pleaser wants everyone arround them to be happy and they will do anything to keep them that way. The moment people are unsatisfied about you it becomes a problem.

Accept that you can not always please people. Moreso, you can not please everyone. You will never be fully satisfied if you keep trying to please them. Accept your decision and move on with your life.

Do not loose your relationship with God

Your relationship with your creator is greatly important especially if you want to be at peace.

To find perfect peace you have to be at peace with God. To be at peace with him, you have to be in good relationship with him. Therefore you need to always maintain your good relationship with God.

With all these points you have read, I hope you can correct what you need to correct and change what you need to change to start leaving a life that is full of peace. 

This piece of writing is not for Christians alone, it is for everyone. 

Here is a little prayer for you (and me ) today.

Thank you God for being patient with us, thank you for all you have given us and thanks for all you will still do. We ask for the strength to be at peace with you, with ourselves and with the people around us. We thank you once again that we have the ability to turn to you for help. Amen